I remember talking to a professor in law school and I don’t know what frame of mind I was in. I was probably in some kind of practical, trying-to-get-oriented type of mindset. Maybe it’s because I heard that you couldn’t get a big law job if you didn’t have an economics background or a practical background in terms of what you studied in college. I studied philosophy and rhetoric, and the professor asked me what I studied, and I said philosophy. I think I was kind of apologetic about it, and I asked him what he studied and he said economics. But he said that the philosophy that I studied would mean that I could read it and get more out of it.
And I think later in life I certainly think that I’m much happier that I studied philosophy than economics or something quote-unquote practical. I always thought that when I was in college the first thing to figure out was life—like what is the point of all this life stuff—and that drew me to philosophy. And I happened to be in a class—I got there an hour early—and I was part of a class that had a professor making fun of quote “Liberal Artsville USA” and kind of pounded the table about his practical economics instruction.
But when you get to be older, all that stuff just kind of evaporates. And I’ve had that confirmed by Henry Nouwen’s speech and also the guys in my men’s group, who recognized that career trophies don’t really mean anything after you retire.
But for me, it was just trying to live life. I wasn’t trying to be some kind of special person. It just seemed like that was the right thing to do, given that I had the opportunity anyway.
And part of this intersects now because I’m trying to pivot and still trying to make a career of myself or for myself and for my family in the Washington, D.C. metro area. And I know that trophies don’t last. I know I won a sales award 15–20 years ago and I didn’t even have the plaque anymore. It was in my trunk and it got scratched up and eventually I threw it away many years ago.
And I know it’s all empty. But I’m still surrounded by people trying to self-actualize through their career, and it’s exhausting.